The many stories like yours are one of the reasons my husband and I left. We did not want this kind of turmoil for our children. I looked like a model witness at you age but was actually going through the exact same dilemmas. The problem is, you don't have enough life experience to know that what you are going through is totally normal. It's a normal stage of development to pull away from your parents and form your own relationships and values. To make you feel guilty and not support you through this entrance of adulthood is criminal. However, you are probably not going to change them. So I agree with the above advice. Do not admit anything to the elders and play along with your parents as much as you can. Look in to going to school so that you can eventually get a decent job and start your own life. Don't let your parents and other JW's make you think there is something wrong with you, look at the member directory here, so many people questioning life long beliefs, they might be people right in your congregation that look like they have it all figured out (like your brother). My thoughts are with you.
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Got some troubles....
by thebiggestlie inso i havnt posted in a while but i'm a regular lurker.
i'm 19 years old and live at home with the parentals.
i just admitted to them that i've been secretly seeing a "worldly" girl for about a year.
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Freaked Out, Failed to Vote, & Cult Thoughts Kick in too....
by yknot inso i tried voting twice today, both time complete failures.
now it isn't only a select few in my kh who think i am possessed.
first time i got to the front of the line and freaked out badly.
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I am just as messed up but without the clean house. I too, chickened out on the voting. Next time I will be ready. Baby steps. Why are you meeting with the CO?
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Just wanna chat
by mtsgrad inhi peeps.
in the last two weeks i have been thinking of suicide everday.
don't panic i won't do it but cannot get it out of my head.
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All of the above is great advice, rest, exercise,healthy diet. However at this point you really should seek some professional help. Please make an appointment today. This is a tremendous change to deal with and often people need help getting through such a traumatic event. Keep us posted. My thoughts are with you today.
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Blood transfusion.................and I felt sick.
by Summer wine inalthough my opinion of the use of blood has dramatically changed.
i was surprised with my reaction when i recently visited someone in hospital and the blaz a way the nurse said that the patient had been given 2 units of blood to "build him up".
when i looked at the hooked up line of red blood, i felt physically sick, not because of the sight of blood as some people are, but that he was was been intravenously "fed" blood.
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Summer Wine, It's just from years of indoctrination. There are some things that I will probably never enjoy like holidays,birthdays and relaxing on tues and thurs night because there will just be that tinge of guilt or weird feeling there. It's like a PTSD. I am just trying to change things for my kids.
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You can effect a Tipping Point.....
by sweet pea inplease prove to me i'm not posting in the graveyard shift....... besty and i were talking about password protected and family's exit this last few weeks.
we are full of admiration for the way that they have left with dignity and obviously made many think.
they have not faded, they had a good repuation until the very last moment - mark was an elder - but they stopped and made the decision to be up front and face the elders in a meeting.
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I agree with Sweet Pea about leaving in a dignified manner (not getting kicked out), really has a lot of credibility about it. However I cannot imagine doing this without my husband or if my children were adults and in. It's hard enough leaving behind your entire extended family, although their present attitude is making it easier. I too am still a bit of a coward, I've stopped going to meetings but no one really knows why,I think they assume it is something petty. In our case it was indeed the petty little problems that made us look more deeply into the doctrinal issues. The elders call constantly to talk to us but we've been avoiding it so far. We were not willing to continue the facade of meeting attendance and service, but I an still not ready to be DF'ed (because of family and friends). My heart goes out to all of you who have a spouse that is still in, I think I would go insane.
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I'm so sick of some JWs...
by cognac inwith all there friggen comments.
accckkk... my bil is a complete a**.
i just can't stand him.
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Cognac, I feel your frustration,we too have worked for JW family members before. Especially if you go to the same hall, it's way too much togetherness with no appropriate barriers. I think you are on the right track to work on moving a little farther away. Congratulations on the new baby, there is no experience that can match it!
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I hope this news is true!
by wozadummy ini've mentioned before here that in my old congo that there is a pedophile who has been there for some years.
just to re-cap - he was an elder in a congo more south from my old congo for some years and stopped being an elder there for unknown reasons to us when he and his wife moved to our congo when we attended.. in time it came out ,from an elderly pioneer who was close to my wife, that he had been df'd before for adultery or some such.. now in our congregation he got df'd again and because the pioneer sister used to get a lift to meetings from them ,she was told by the pedo's wife that he had been accused of molesting his girls when they were kids.
of course the stupid woman was actually defending her husband to the pioneer - this is her daughters this animal molested!!.
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Wow, I keep thinking that the cases I know about in my area are unique, but I just keep hearing the same story over and over again. I just can't stand the lazy thought process "Jehovah will take care of it". It's so puzzling to me that they follow the letter of the law about some scriptures and then they let someone like this in the congregation. This person would have been stoned in ancient Israel, I know we can't kill him but can't they at least turn him over to the police. They must really need asses in the seats to keep these creeps in their midst. Please keep us posted on this case.
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Funny first Halloween gave kids some Lemons.no candy!
by Witness 007 inin australia it's rare for kids to trick or treat....but we got one just as i was going to the shop to buy candy so my wife offered him a choice of apple, lemon or orange and he chose lemon?????.
then my wife made some pumpkin lanterns and lit some candles....i had to work and was to busy to get into it, but this was like a first halloween we didn't give the kids "my book of bible stories" which is the worst horror book of all time.
also i got the candy and i hope we get another one!.
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My little one loves lemons and limes that is a bigger treat than a candy bar for him. I am so glad your wife is getting help, hope this makes life easier for both of you.
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How do you like your coffee?
by LouBelle insame way i like me women.....sweet and strong with lots of milk.......
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I feel really low rent here. Because I like coffee any old way. I love the flavored creamers especially sugar free hazelnut. But if I don't have that I will even drink the gross heated up stuff with skim milk.